(this blog has been written with kids who were previously in public school in mind. I have no experience with kids who were homeschooled from the beginning, and do not know how that process works for parents or for children.)
There is a very famous homeschooling woman who has become something of a guru for the community. She has written bestsellers, has a website, has a forum dedicated to her methods. I have read some of it, listened to her lectures and taken notes, and use some of her principles in my homeschooling. But I can't stand her.
Why, you are asking, why? Because if you listen to her, you will get the same impression you get from a thousand homeschooling books: smiling happy families, smiling happy kids, smiling happy parents. The kids love it, these things all exclaim, all you have to do is pull your kids out of public school and you, too, can live your dreams! This particular expert answers questions about what to do if your kids don't want to 'do school' with a line like: I have no idea. MY kids, she says, would never refuse.
It sets new homeschoolers up with the idea that once you've met the legalities of homeschooling, once you've picked out beautiful curriculum and sharpened all your pencils, everything will be
perfect. The truth is.. well, maybe.