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Last year, the 2012-2013 school year, was an awful year for us.
We had a major change mid year (and to allay fears, no it WASN'T a tornado), and I have to admit that our 'strict' homeschooling came to a screeching halt. It was my fault: I wasn't doing very well because of the change, and I had an incredibly hard time devising plans and carrying them out. The little battles with our homeschool- the kid who really doesn't like to apply himself, no matter how bright he is, the child who loves to talk when she should be working- were just too exhausting for me to handle in a manner that my children deserve. By spring, I felt like a complete failure. Less than half of what I wanted to get done actually got there, two-day assignments stretched into a week and, sometimes, two.
I won't chatter on here about the mistakes I made because it doesn't matter. If you've gone though an incredibly awful period yourself, you know already. You've probably given yourself 40-lashes just as often as I did to myself. You've secretly declared yourself a failure. It isn't just about doing 'school-lite' for one day, or one week... it's that awful feeling that you've been doing it for a month- or more- and that you aren't living up to what you feel your kids really deserve.
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So I had a crappy year... they didn't. By coloring the failure of paperwork across their learning, I am really blinding myself to what I should already have known: kids learn. That's it. With or without us to point it out, they still learn. We might hold the door open, read them the directions, but they take the ball and learn the skills without us. We don't have to force them, hold them down, demand they do it. Because even if we back up, chill out, TRUST them, they can and WILL forge ahead. This really is their world, too, and THEY are the vital component in our homeschools. We know this. We expect this. But I know I didn't trust it nearly as much as I should have. Sure, putting things on paper looks neat, we can hang it on the wall, point it out to relatives. But many concepts can ONLY be learned with time, creativity, a decided understanding about life and the world we live in. Kids may know the parts of a bee and a flower, but unless they watch bees in action they can't really understand how important bees are to flowers. I think it's notable here that I had two very broad goals for the year, and somehow we've reached those goals. Does it matter how we got there?
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Let learning happen in your homeschool. We don't have to give ourselves a tag and religiously follow that prescription ONLY and ALWAYS. Kids are smart little people- if we give them the time and opportunity to be so. Just because we relax and let the paperwork slide DOESN'T mean the learning isn't still happening. Baby animals learn, all the time. If tigers learned to be tigers in a classroom full of football-type board work, do you think they'd be better tigers? Sure, human beings have more to learn than tigers, but I'd bet money that your children are better with all sorts of technology than most adults will ever be. There are subjects your child knows that he or she learned entirely on their own, and they may seem silly in an adult world (Minecraft and My Little Pony are favorites here), but they are TRAINING themselves to memorize, remember, learn the pieces that are less colorful, less interesting, and more intricate. They are teaching themselves the same skills the public school devises paperwork to prove. And our kids, with the learning they are achieving, and the skills they have the time to teach themselves, have a world wide open and unconfined by the good-little-cog model forced on many kids by the public school system. While public schools are (purposely) teaching kids about conformity, endless rule following, and (perhaps inadvertantly) fitting in with one's peers, our kids have the time to learn about far, far more. We don't have to fill those hours with nuggets of information, more math, or more written essays. We can give them time to explore the boundaries outside the box- which is exactly what they need to be creative, confident, high-achieving adults. We don't need a papertrail for learning to occur, and no one has to bleed.
My son asked a high-impact question this year: "Why do we only learn a little bit about each thing? Why don't we learn all about it?" I have yet to refuse to answer a question because I thought the answer was too confusing or 'the wrong grade level' for my kids. I have tried to take our material far beyond whatever we have, to explain things as completely as I can. And yet, the public school paradigm is they only get THIS this year, and THIS next year. He's right: why? Where is the sense in part-way teaching something this year, then part-way again next year, and on into infinitum? For most subjects, it isn't about maturity of content (i.e. sex and violence). So why, then, is the accepted idea that kids are
too dumb to understand it all? Sure, sometimes long explanations are confusing (I refer to my own attempts to learn cells this past year. I'm still confused about how it all works together). But often, it's
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Good luck with your new school year, whenever you start. And if somewhere throughout the year you feel like you get lost along the way, trust your kids. They know exactly what they are doing.